Question

[neonspectraltoast]

A few people or more on these boards harass me, showing no manners, constantly making slights...

My reactions may be a bit heavy-handed and inappropriate, but are they all receiving infractions, too? Or is it just me for using obscenities.

Example:

Me: Tim Tams are uckie.
Member: Your whole personality is uckie.
Me: Swears at everyone on forum.

Just curious, should I just be flagging these instances, and then those responsible will receive infractions?

Or, as I suspect, is it me, and I'm one of the members it's deemed ok to belittle?

Thanks.

[Youfreeme]

neonspectraltoast I don't know the answer to your question since I haven't given you or anyone else an official warning or infraction remotely recently. It's difficult to know who started something, because someone will report 1 post and it isn't always obvious what the post was in context to (esp if it gets moved to the pit and the argument becomes fractured). My advice would be--if you see someone breaking the rules, report the post. No mod is going to be able to track down multi member arguments so if you report the post at least we know it's happening. Otherwise, it could very well go unnoticed.

[Youfreeme]

For reference, here are the rules. If you see someone breaking them, report it if you want.

1) No harassment. No name-calling. No personal attacks.

Treefort is not an echo chamber. A wide variety of topics get discussed here, and some topics can be controversial. Everyone has a right to their opinion, and everyone has a right to disagree with another's opinion, but we do not allow debates to become personal attacks.
Name-calling of any kind is not okay.
Attempting to belittle another member is not okay.
Slander is not okay.
If a member feels harassed, you will be warned to leave them alone, and regardless of whether you feel what you said is harassment or not, you must leave that member alone.


2) Nothing illegal. No child pornography, snuff, how to build bombs, etc. Breaking this rule will result in an immediate permanent ban.

3) No doxxing. You must never post information about other members, such as (but not limited to) their real name, address, phone number, e-mail address, Facebook accounts.



The Piranha Pit

Rules 2 & 3 still apply here, but rule 1 will not be enforced.
If a thread is deemed trolling, or becomes disruptively offensive or upsetting, it will be moved here.
Individual posts that have become arguments in non-Pit threads may be moved to the Pit Migration thread, so that the conversation can continue without disrupting the regular forum. This is an attempt to allow free speech, rather than simply deleting the posts.
You are not allowed to harass someone in the Pit who doesn't post in the Pit themselves.

Rule breaking will most often be first given a warning, then an infraction point. Four infraction points in a three month period will result in a temporary one month ban. Members who continue to cause trouble on their return may eventually be banned permanently. Creating new accounts to get around a ban will get both accounts banned. If you wish to return after a permanent ban, send us an email to discuss.

We will not delete accounts without very good reason.

[neonspectraltoast]

Thanks, but what I'm asking is if the rules are being applied fairly Youfreeme .

I didn't think my childlike repulsion towards Tim Tams was offensive, you see. But we're all babies, I guess, including me.

Hopefully I can stop being so upset about it. I know it's unseemly to want to be liked so badly. I want you all to love me...let's just say a lot. I'm obsessive about it, and I get so sad when VG makes comments as he does.

Maybe it is a double standard on my part. But like the Tim Tams thing...I'm going for a totally opposite impression of the response I'm receiving. To be so eager to be buddies and constantly get told things like "You're gross" "Your personality sucks" etc etc hurts my feelings.

Even this writing here probably won't be completely positive and constructive -- what am I to do? A man wants to take charge, take control. And even this, someone has to point blame and say, "It's your own fault, Andy," like I don't already try every day as hard as I can to be a bigger person.

I don't LIKE being mean. I'm not good at it. I have a freaking stuffed animal under my arm as I type this. You guys make me have to try and be this person who offends other people, puts them in their places. Like all our egos are in this big race to the finish.

I can't stop being mean when I feel hurt. I can't believe some of the things you people say to me, and you treat me like I don't even exist -- why? Cause it's a weird sexual control thing I, as a virgin, can't even relate to. I don't know WHY.

But I'll never fit in. I'm just gonna keep on getting mad every time I think I'm making a side-splitting joke and people start acting like I'm a terrible person.

I don't understand you people, and yes it helps to talk so nobody necessarily has to say, "You suck, you're explaining something."

A part of me wants to be that clever manipulative person, like maybe you guys finding me mysterious will get me in your hearts. If I try it's bullshit, though. A part of me sees myself as this clever emotionless thing that just keeps on talking to manipulate you all, but it's not true. It's what I think you want, though.

It feels like that's how everyone sees me. And I'm afraid to just be dopey because you all have all these paranoid rules. Like, what am I gonna be accused of? I can't even say, cause then I'll get accused!

/therapeutic?

[Mustard Tiger]

only weak pussies report posts generally,but the mods react to the reports and often only 1 person with a spinal cord gets banned while the jellyfish get to stay and passive/aggressive start their shit with someone else. I wouldn't ban anyone unless it way out of control shit like luigis terrorist crap and exposing himself to kids.

[Audiogen]

Just curious, should I just be flagging these instances, and then those responsible will receive infractions?

Or, as I suspect, is it me, and I'm one of the members it's deemed ok to belittle?

Flagging is better than retaliating, it doesn't mean that every flag will result in an infraction necessarily but it will likely make us more aware of posts we're overlooking. As has been mentioned ad nauseam, keep personal attacks in the Pit. If you have difficulty with that, it's probably best not to make personal attacks at all.

Being critical of someone's ideas and opinions is not a personal attack, belittling someone over their appearance or race or something personal and unrelated to the discussion is likely to be considered a personal attack. We have not deemed it ok to belittle you.

[neonspectraltoast]

only weak pussies report posts generally,but the mods react to the reports and often only 1 person with a spinal cord gets banned while the jellyfish get to stay and passive/aggressive start their shit with someone else. I wouldn't ban anyone unless it way out of control shit like luigis terrorist crap and exposing himself to kids.

Well I'm trying to talk a lot so that I can manipulate my brain into just flagging instead of stirring up shit.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over...how many years have I been going over the top to make the whole thing sickening? It doesn't work.

Some people just don't like me I guess.

[neonspectraltoast]

It's weird how the mind works...when you want something so badly you push it away.

I'll figure it out eventually. My whole life is one big self-sabotage, and yes, I like talking about me. Okay?

[lode]

People seem to forget about the ignore button too. Hater kryptonite.

People act like it’s a weak move, like you’re running away. But it’s the most dom shit I can think of. Letting someone keep @‘ing you, embarrassing themselves.

Be the change you want to see in the forum. Smash that ignore button.

[neonspectraltoast]

I can't do that. A lot of times it's the most difficult people who need the help the most.

I know what it's like to thrash around desperately inside, ego torture.

I can't put anybody there, an innocent man who just isn't worth my cognizance.

The calmest oceans can hide the most turbulent seas. Or something like that.

[Vanilla Gorilla]

[Jessica]

Sensitivity isn't weakness.
I don't like this "only pussies would flag posts" narrative. I know at least one mod agrees with that. But that's how you end up with a forum lacking personality diversity. Anyone feeling uncomfortable because of another poster should feel like they aren't being annoying or a pussy by requesting mods make the decision on whether the behaviour is okay.

[neonspectraltoast]

>%^>

[Mustard Tiger]

flagged**

[Din Djarin]

People seem to forget about the ignore button too. Hater kryptonite.

People act like it’s a weak move, like you’re running away. But it’s the most dom shit I can think of. Letting someone keep @‘ing you, embarrassing themselves.

Be the change you want to see in the forum. Smash that ignore button.

My thoughts exactly. The guy thoroughly dislikes you and don't mind going out of his way to let that be known.
There's nothing to gain from him and he for some reason really gets to you apparently. Put him on ignore neonspectraltoast

[Din Djarin]

I can't do that.

Yes, you can.

[Vanilla Gorilla]

Be the change you want to see in the forum.

[lode]

lol.