Neurotypical behaviours

[dream catcher]

So I'm autistic as fuck, we all know this. I'm hoping to use this thread as a way to decipher certain neurotypical behaviour.

So my first example. I've noticed that I could say something totally innocuous, in my eyes like not warranting any kind of real response. I'm talking to a dude on tinder and I said "I'm almost 30" and he immediately started spouting off stupid "advice". "Don't worry about 30! You're young! Numbers don't mean anything!!" I'm like okay... What is the point of saying this to me... I know this... Like do "normal" people just keep saying the same shit to each other? Do they need to tell this to themselves to feel better? All I said was "I feel lost" he said "imagine being 37 and feeling the same way" and I said well I'm almost 30 and he started going off about how age is just a number. It doesn't comfort me. I know that. I'm just.. Talking. Just wondering why people say stupid bullshit like that. Will think of other examples as they come.

[Sooz]

I detest NT's as they are ignorant of those of us who are on the spectrum.

[dream catcher]

This is so not true. And it's one of the main reasons why we can't interact with NT's because of the baseless hatred toward them. They are trying their best

[dream catcher]

They know that we know that they don't know what to do. And in these moments, we have to be strong and stand firm in our beliefs and not waver. We deserve a voice, whether people like it or not. We have to be confident with who we are

[Sooz]

They are skeptical of our condition

[dream catcher]

We can't hate the neurotypicals. We must embrace them. They run the world and we need to acclimate as best we can unfortunately

[Undies]

Like do "normal" people just keep saying the same shit to each other?

yes.

[dream catcher]

But why : (

[Jessica]

dream catcher this part baffles me too. Sometimes I'm in a position where I know "the line" that I'm meant to say, and if I say it I feel ridiculous but everyone treats me like I'm normal.. If I don't say the expected response, I can tell it unsettles people.

I don't even associate this with neurotypical.. It's always been an intelligence thing to me, haha.. Stupider people (sometimes lovely people) speak in more stock phrases.

[neonspectraltoast]

He said that to impress you. He wanted a chance to be your friend. You can't live life suspicious of other's intentions. No, not everyone may be as smart as you, but a good heart is a good heart.

Squeak, squeak! We're all just little mice! It's okay!

[dream catcher]

I just wish I knew why it bothered me so much.

[Sooz]

We can't hate the neurotypicals. We must embrace them. They run the world and we need to acclimate as best we can unfortunately

You can if they are being complete arseholes towards you.

[dream catcher]

This is a safe space for NTs and auties alike ❤️ let's not cast aspersions straight out the gate

[dream catcher]

NTs like to lie a lot. I don't think they even realize that they're doing it. They'll say "good to see you" "we should get together sometime" "I'll call you later" "I'm fine" "do whatever you want, it's okay" lies. Lies lies lies. It's a lie if you know it's not true! Doesn't matter what colour of lie. A white lie is still a lie. I don't like liars.

NTs don't like it when they compliment me and I say "I know right??" like I know my bag is cool. I know I did a good job doing x. I know that. I don't need validation from other people. I will say "DO YOU LIKE THIS?" and then when I don't get the answer I want I regret asking in the first place because I already know. Usually I'll ask someone something just to be sure that I feel 100% about it. I'll ask my roommate, do you like x or y? And he'll say y. And I'll be relieved because I liked x and I knew I liked x and his response to my question just solidifies it. And then it looks like "I don't care" about your opinion when I kind of never did in the first place.

NTs don't like to say how they feel. So now I have learned how to mimic them and I don't really talk about how I feel to anyone because no one seems like they want to talk about emotions and stuff. I use the forums as a kind of therapy for myself. Just getting it all out of my brain into something intelligible is nice.

I wish... It wasn't so hard to make eye contact. Why does everyone want to look directly into your freaking eyeballs. I hate it.

[mallyboppa]

windows to the soul ! The Eagles had it right in that song !!

[Undies]

Yeah I never understood eye contact. It's weird and unnatural and I don't see any actual benefit to it. But people think it's super important so I just have to remind myself to stare awkwardly at people's pupils when I'm talking to them.

[dream catcher]

Yeah I never understood eye contact. It's weird and unnatural and I don't see any actual benefit to it. But people think it's super important so I just have to remind myself to stare awkwardly at people's pupils when I'm talking to them.

I do this thing where I keep looking wildly around like a crazy person to the point where the other person will look behind them to see what I'm looking at but it's nothing. I'm just desperately trying to avoid looking at the person. Haven't found a good method yet

[Tropical Breeze]

I'm lost.

I'm pretty reserved. So I guess that's good in that i don't really deal with people. I could only handle people in small doses. Vice versa as well.

[everything bagel]

I would interpret that is good old fashioned manslpainin'

[Undies]

I do this thing where I keep looking wildly around like a crazy person to the point where the other person will look behind them to see what I'm looking at but it's nothing. I'm just desperately trying to avoid looking at the person. Haven't found a good method yet

i don't actually find it uncomfortable so i'll just do it if i remember. it's just not at all natural so a lot of times it doesn't even occur to me to do it.

[Sooz]

I trained myself to look at something on somebody's shirt.
So i'm kind of looking in their direction.
I usually have to ask for written instructions though because i tend to forget.

[Matthew Mussolini]

Autism is something people over diagnose I think. I supposedly have Autism, well....Aspergers, same thing pretty much. Could be! I dunno. One dock said I'm positive, the other said negative.

[Amerijuanican]

So I'm autistic as fuck, we all know this. I'm hoping to use this thread as a way to decipher certain neurotypical behaviour.

So my first example. I've noticed that I could say something totally innocuous, in my eyes like not warranting any kind of real response. I'm talking to a dude on tinder and I said "I'm almost 30" and he immediately started spouting off stupid "advice". "Don't worry about 30! You're young! Numbers don't mean anything!!" I'm like okay... What is the point of saying this to me... I know this... Like do "normal" people just keep saying the same shit to each other? Do they need to tell this to themselves to feel better? All I said was "I feel lost" he said "imagine being 37 and feeling the same way" and I said well I'm almost 30 and he started going off about how age is just a number. It doesn't comfort me. I know that. I'm just.. Talking. Just wondering why people say stupid bullshit like that. Will think of other examples as they come.

Seems to me that a great percentage of people do that if they are in a social mood, or they sense someone is feeling a bit bothered in life.
I don't think it's that big a deal, perhaps I'm wrong. I dunno

Grew up seeing my elders do that stuff. It bothered me more then than now. Like, IDGAF now. Lols