Charmed, I'm sure.

[neonspectraltoast]

It's amazing how looks don't matter, but one can break their mirrors. In fact, so many are broken.

Take me, for example. My mirror fell out. I am not a handsome man, at my worst.

But it's DEMEANOR.

I am hideous when I'm suspicious. Which is quite often.

But when I'm, I don't know, confident? I'm passable. I'll always have this big nose, and probably look much less approachable from a distance than when someone sees the kindness of my eyes.

My forehead leaves much to be desired (I think it's growing.)

But what I am so callously saying is that you'd be surprised at how attractive you are. Women, and gay men, like character. Yes, many like the character of Prince Charming, but everyone likes that there are cards, characters.

And people don't just look and think, "Oh fug." Except in my case.

And I'll survive.

You don't have to be everyone's visual cup of tea. What I KNOW is that there would have been a woman whose ideal mate was Joseph Merrick, though.

Not even kidding. And I love personality. Go JOE!

[neonspectraltoast]

We're all a little afraid, I suppose.

Perhaps Joseph's true love was afraid of what her parents would say, despite the fact she couldn't control her attraction. And maybe Joseph thought she was fugly.

The "blame game"...is dumb, though.

[neonspectraltoast]

The remarkable thing is that appearances really can change due to demeanor. Which can be difficult...

But even studies have proven that we can take on the appearance of an S.o.

This is due to how they effect our DEMEANOR, though. Though it is pretty immediate when you're that close to someone.

As someone else posted, you can even gain weight by being around bigger people.

There are those who wish to relegate this all to physics, but that's just a repercussion of the psychological, as we are psychological beings.

Mind over matter.

Some morons want to genetically engineer perfection, as though there is a standard for that.

Twould be the most glaring flaw of all.

[Jessica]

True. About how women perceive men, anyway.

I feel like a lot of men do like specifically symmetrical, "perfect" looking women.. but a man can look much less textbook handsome and still be really hot because of demeanor, attitude, and confidence.

[Din Djarin]

A lot of men would dismiss their real life equivalent of a soulmate just because she might have a lard ass or butterface according to the man.. Saw it so many times, and hey, I'm even guilty of it myself at first instance.. People suck at times, they are often the key to their own (mis)fortune :P

[neonspectraltoast]

I would snuggle with almost anyone. I don't want to straight up "fuck" though. I just don't like it.

If a woman somehow got close to me, and it unraveled in the course of events, as it nearly did with my ex, that's different. I'll be your man.

But I don't want anatomy to be a huge focus. Which may sound like a lie, coming from someone who is so fond of a supermodel, but I truly do admire her heart. I think she's the sweetness.

I just wanna snuggle and talk. I don't know where it works from there, and I'm not in control of it. And am easily denied passage.

[Undies]

A lot of men would dismiss their real life equivalent of a soulmate just because she might have a lard ass or butterface according to the man.. Saw it so many times, and hey, I'm even guilty of it myself at first instance.. People suck at times, they are often the key to their own (mis)fortune :P

at first instance, yeah, you're not going to be attracted to someone who is physically unattractive and you don't know anything about their personality. why would you be? but then like neon said earlier, appearance changes due to demeanor; i've met several girls who i thought were rather unattractive at first, then once i got to know them they actually became extremely cute. and the opposite is true as well; i've met gorgeous women who ended up being awful people and started to just look ugly once i realized that.

of course, by the time you get to know the woman it's too late and she has already dismissed you as an option anyway.

[Din Djarin]

at first instance, yeah, you're not going to be attracted to someone who is physically unattractive and you don't know anything about their personality. why would you be? but then like neon said earlier, appearance changes due to demeanor; i've met several girls who i thought were rather unattractive at first, then once i got to know them they actually became extremely cute. and the opposite is true as well; i've met gorgeous women who ended up being awful people and started to just look ugly once i realized that.

of course, by the time you get to know the woman it's too late and she has already dismissed you as an option anyway.

I'm just saying some people are lonely and there are partners for them out there that would really add something to their lifes. But I see a lot of men being stuck on physical attractivness, men that are not really physical attractive themselves. They also seem to crave sex at least as much as a loving partner. But even if they look a bit past the sex thing, they get stuck on a 'butterface' for example, or a too big butt, or no butt, that kind of stuff. Even though they have a terrible lard ass or male butterface themselves. So yeah, I would grant them the luxury to go for someone physical attractive, but 1) they simply don't have that luxury, and 2) they focus too much on the physical attractiveness part. Like, its really the most important. Basically they think in superficial aspects that they would hate being judged by themselves, but they feel like they are justified to do it because they're men and they kinda deserve it.

[Undies]

I'm just saying some people are lonely and there are partners for them out there that would really add something to their lifes. But I see a lot of men being stuck on physical attractivness, men that are not really physical attractive themselves. They also seem to crave sex at least as much as a loving partner. But even if they look a bit past the sex thing, they get stuck on a 'butterface' for example, or a too big butt, or no butt, that kind of stuff. Even though they have a terrible lard ass or male butterface themselves. So yeah, I would grant them the luxury to go for someone physical attractive, but 1) they simply don't have that luxury, and 2) they focus too much on the physical attractiveness part. Like, its really the most important. Basically they think in superficial aspects that they would hate being judged by themselves, but they feel like they are justified to do it because they're men and they kinda deserve it.

yeah, that does happen. it would be great if people were just naturally attracted to people at their own attractiveness level. the problem is that if you don't know anything about the person, there's nothing to attract you to them in the first place other than looks. i'm not really sure what can be done about it though, it seems like a bad idea to go around asking out strangers you're not attracted to just in case they end up having a good personality. on the other hand, that really is all normal dating is minus the looks, so maybe it's actually not such a terrible idea.

[Din Djarin]

I don't think in levels or leagues. I don't think other men should think in those terms when trying to get a partner. I'm also not saying they should leave physical attractiveness out of the equation altogether I am just saying that I see lonely men desperate for a female partner digging their own proverbial hole by being delusional in going for what they crave sexually, more so then what they need to solve their loneliness.
If they could actually get what they crave sexually (other than paying for it by going to a prostitute) I would say, good for you. But that's not really the case.

About the level/league thing: If a man craves for example (and quite typically) a top fashion model even though they have zero in common, it is not a league or level matter imo, even though others might perceive it as such. It's an incompatibility matter at first. But that does not really matter to the man's perception as he fantasizes mainly about hot sex. Its why he thinks they would be a good match. Ya know what I'm sayin :P

[Undies]

fair enough, there are a lot of guys who do that and are obviously not doing themselves any favors with it.