Do you grow more happy with age?

[Matthew Mussolini]

I would have to say I don't enjoy getting old , and I was over all more happy when I did drugs and worshipping controversial figures that Audiogen told me not to mention outside of the occult.

But there comes a time to sacrifice happiness and pleasure so that I am less irksome and offensive and creepy to others.

I would say these months of sobriety have left me more sensitive to how others are feeling and more aware of my delusional thinking.

Im currently 34 still trying to grow out of teenage years or something. Growing older each year leaves me more humble and considerate of others but less happy as well.

There was a time I was homeless with a BIG spider as my companion (that strangers would hold) and I was completely comfortable living like that, sleeping on the grass or on the floor at the Dorothy day shelter with no family in the state.

I don't think it is okay to be comfortable living like that or hitting a speed pipe every morning to find joy, spiritual insight, the ability to pray and study, and be able to function.

Also, it is very difficult to find growth in maturity when doing drugs and alcohol every day. (Funny side note, I had a dream last night the forum was all getting high on Ketamine lol )

I think maybe a year from now if sobriety is maintained and behavior is law abiding and considerate of others, I'll be far more happy and mature and sane than now.

But overall, I was most happy in 2015 but it was based off of delusional thinking. I think I'll sacrifice happiness for the grace to be more considerate of others and less delusional, more charitable and humble etc.

Overall it doesn't seem happiness will grow with age. Wisdom probably. But it will be a lot of work and taking the path of most resistance.

If you have something wise to share do share.

God bless!

[Matthew Mussolini]

Funny note as well, the spider was in a cage in my backpack and twice police didn't arrest me because of it. I got them to hold it once and they said, "you have a warrant but it's your lucky day. We aren't gonna arrest the Spider on a petty misdemeanor"

[Jessica]

and when it heard that, the spider cackled mischievously to itself.

[Jessica]

So far I have, yes :-)

But I don't attach any importance to age whatsoever, in terms how you're meant to behave, or what you should have achieved, or how you should be living. I think that's often what makes people dislike aging (and health deterioration). It's not good to have psychological limitations on how you should be spending your time.

Age is almost entirely irrelevant to me at this point, just a useful countdown reminder of what my possible window of continued life is, I guess.

[Audiogen]

I don't grow more happy with age. It's not even necessarily the aging in-and-of-itself that makes me less happy, it's the limited possibilities correlated with it. For instance, In my early-20's, I could just call up a friend to set up a guitar jam with no problem, I couldn't do that now. People drift apart and settle down, I can recalibrate my mind to find happiness in other things but I don't think I'll have that same level of idealistic happiness again.

[Tropical Breeze]

No, my happiest years were from mid 20s thru mid 30s. If anything the older i get the more there is indifference to happiness or sadness. Even sadness can be beautiful. To sit alone with sadness with teary eyes. Pure poetry. The older i get the more i see people chasing after happiness like kids chasing after their favorite toy. It looks silly but i understand the reasoning.

I also don't see wisdom growing with age. Its extremely rare to find an adult that behaves more maturely than a child. Seems like the older a person gets, the more stuck in their ways, and the more full of themselves.

Happiness is indifference to age.

[neonspectraltoast]

[Meliai]

You *can* grow happier with age.

A lot of people let experiences sour and bitter them and so they grow unhappier with age. But it doesn't have to be that way

But I don't think the goal of life is happiness anyways. It is to experience life and to learn and grow from the experiences.

Happiness can be a natural byproduct of growth though

[Din Djarin]

When people say stuff like life becomes better or a person can be more happy at a later age etc its not about a continuous upward spiral. So sometimes we can be happier than we were as a blissful kid, but far from always (naturally).
Focussing on a blissful past and be at odds you don't feel like that at the moment is a recipe for failure, and a completely unneccesary one too Drugs CAN help making you feel happy, but if they also spark delusion or apathy/nihilistic thought patterns it might obviously not be worth it. I am primarily thinking of pot and moderate use of alcohol lol, obviously too regular use of most drugs (incl alcohol and I guess even pot) is not going to serve you well on the long term.

Here's a cliché remark that remains true: any day can be the new start of a better life. Also at age 34. Hell even at age 54

[Undies]

i don't think age and happiness necessarily correlate. but for me, yeah for the most part i have gotten happier with age. it basically comes down to, i was a fucked up unhappy kid, and as time passes i have slowly learned how to function properly, and as i get better at being a person, i also become happier.

it will probably hit a peak though. most of the things i enjoy doing involve a certain amount of physical ability, so when it becomes hard to get around and do shit, i can see the happiness level dropping again. probably not to the point it was originally though.

[GLEN......]

Grow Happier With Age...?????

What A Stupid Question.....

So Stop Wasting My Time And GET OFF MY BLOODY LAWN......



Sneers Glen.

[Jessica]

lol

[Jessica]

No, my happiest years were from mid 20s thru mid 30s. If anything the older i get the more there is indifference to happiness or sadness. Even sadness can be beautiful. To sit alone with sadness with teary eyes. Pure poetry. The older i get the more i see people chasing after happiness like kids chasing after their favorite toy. It looks silly but i understand the reasoning.

I also don't see wisdom growing with age. Its extremely rare to find an adult that behaves more maturely than a child. Seems like the older a person gets, the more stuck in their ways, and the more full of themselves.

Happiness is indifference to age.

True points. I guess part of why I'm happier with age is that I can accept sad and bad things with more ease. Maybe I don't mean I am happier with age, but that life has become more enjoyable with age.

[Pete's Draggun]

I definitely grow more happier with age.

With each passing day, I connect with more and more people on a positive level.

I try my best to use my free time and extra resources to add value to people lives after my tank of happiness is full.

Which usually is easily achieved after I've eaten my daily breakfast. Most important meal ?



True story:

Yesterday afternoon at 4:55pm, I spoke with the Gastrointestinal receptionist to make an appointment.

I told the receptionist that Dr. Burnett ordered a Endoscopy.

The receptionist asked "Which Doctor?"

I said "No,...... she's a Medical Doctor"

The receptionist paused....... thought.......then had uncontrollable laughter.

I also laughed and repeated to her "Dr. Burnett."

As the receptionist looked up the orders she continued to laugh and jokingly apologized to me.

I said "Im glad you got a laugh considering I'm probably your last call of the day".

She giggled again.

She finished with my appointment booking and said " Yes, you are my last call of the day and I'll probably be chuckling to my car. Thank you for that Pete. You ended my day fun"

5:00:22 pm

I felt happy at the end of that phone call as I'm sure she did as well. It all adds up to an over filled tank of happiness at the end of the day.

Another day older today..........

Repeat....

[Matthew Mussolini]

I definitely grow more happier with age.

With each passing day, I connect with more and more people on a positive level.

I try my best to use my free time and extra resources to add value to people lives after my tank of happiness is full.

Which usually is easily achieved after I've eaten my daily breakfast. Most important meal ?



True story:

Yesterday afternoon at 4:55pm, I spoke with the Gastrointestinal receptionist to make an appointment.

I told the receptionist that Dr. Burnett ordered a Endoscopy.

The receptionist asked "Which Doctor?"

I said "No,...... she's a Medical Doctor"

The receptionist paused....... thought.......then had uncontrollable laughter.

I also laughed and repeated to her "Dr. Burnett."

As the receptionist looked up the orders she continued to laugh and jokingly apologized to me.

I said "Im glad you got a laugh considering I'm probably your last call of the day".

She giggled again.

She finished with my appointment booking and said " Yes, you are my last call of the day and I'll probably be chuckling to my car. Thank you for that Pete. You ended my day fun"

5:00:22 pm

I felt happy at the end of that phone call as I'm sure she did as well. It all adds up to an over filled tank of happiness at the end of the day.

Another day older today..........

Repeat....

That's fantastic news!

[boubindica]

Doesn’t so much equate with age, but it does take time to come back to oneself when you’ve lived so much of your life running away from emotional pain. I started getting happy when I truly began to look after myself and was able to be creative again. Doesn’t have to be creative as in Art etc, but creative with whatever passion you find once the fog clears. Still have days when I feel low and not happy, but it’s not really really really depressed and anyway it passes and I can feel ok again. Hope that makes sense.

[Pete's Draggun]

boubindica

Totally true about all walks of creativeness a person can have to gain happiness.

I tell ya....... writing that 200 word short (3 things) story was creatively quenching for me . Great thread creation B ?

[boubindica]

Thanks Pete glad you enjoyed it.

[Youfreeme]

I bet happiness is like an inverse bell curve. You're pretty stably happy from 0-40, and then happiness starts to dip in 40s, 50s, and the creeps back up again once you leave middle age.