It absolutely can.
Unless you are really sound and stable mentally, and you have a history of things going well, then you at least have a basis for being positive.
If in your experience every job and relationship and attempt at school has been a total fiasco, there is no basis for being positive. By all means, think about things that make you happy, so I would encourage that kind of positivity, and total despair I would never encourage, but being positive has actually done me a shit load of damage and hurt people I come into contact with as well.
It's because it isn't okay to pretend things will be fine and work out well when all the evidence says things will be total shit. I went into multiple jobs believing I would do well. It was total shit every time without a single exception.
I went into College and everyone said I'd be amazing and get could grades. Would have been better if they told me it would be hell and a waste of money.
Also, was at a foster home as a kid where foster parents lost their only son getting hit by a bike, and I was the God send replacement. I still cringe to think how that turned out. I don't think it lasted four months and lots of arguing, yelling, blasphemy, and then incarceration.
It isn't just a matter of choice either. I think people like me should be quickly executed , and one of the reasons is there is no choice to be all fucked up in the head, confused, have fits of rage, enjoy nothing but sin and evil, be morbid as hell, and make people miserable.
Telling mentally ill people it's all a choice and to change is like telling someone to get sexually aroused by the gender they are not attracted to or something. Not the best example to compare it to, but I think it's still a valid point is that if all someone is attracted to ( some of the time or all of the time) is morbid stuff or has reoccurring fits of rage and criminal history , it's very dangerous for them to start thinking things will get better.
Sure, I'm more compassionate than I used to be, things like that can change, through exercises of the mind and training oneself to have new habits, and faith in another entity greater than myself.
But people keep telling me to get a job and go back to school , and it's an act of charity more importantly to society if I don't do that. When I do things like that it causes people to suffer, the people I work with, and I tend to traumatize and disturb people when I'm fully resolved to not do so.
Not just that, I'm not predictable to myself. Tell the cops, they know me and I'm so honest they probably tap my phone and have cameras at my place or something. Guarenteed I'm under tight surveillance, but I'm just not the same person one day as the next.
I'll be compassionate and affectionate and quick to forgive people one day, then the next day be cold and wanna blow somebodies brains out for just being mildly annoying, and it isn't a choice or I'd know how to make sure I don't get like that. Or wake up in the morning and do the ritual that makes the change
The same Carmelite Mother Superior that was telling me what a bright future I had was shortly after slapping me in the face for shouting blasphemies in her convent. She's lucky she wasn't a priest her size or I would have snapped his neck.
Let's remember , it was positive thinking that got a lot of people hurt in my experience, so better for some people to actually be negative. Had I not been positive or had hope, lots of misery would not have been there and bad memories for a lot of people.
Ambition is a good thing for most people with keeping a positive attitude, but most people aren't in their first mental institution at age 10 either.
Also, in relationships, most people are crushed and heartbroken because they got their hopes up and expected positive outcome. It's a sick world and every day someone is tortured to death by the hands of another. What makes you or I immune to the same destiny? Best to not get hopes up.
Still, Monty Python had a point
Unless you are really sound and stable mentally, and you have a history of things going well, then you at least have a basis for being positive.
If in your experience every job and relationship and attempt at school has been a total fiasco, there is no basis for being positive. By all means, think about things that make you happy, so I would encourage that kind of positivity, and total despair I would never encourage, but being positive has actually done me a shit load of damage and hurt people I come into contact with as well.
It's because it isn't okay to pretend things will be fine and work out well when all the evidence says things will be total shit. I went into multiple jobs believing I would do well. It was total shit every time without a single exception.
I went into College and everyone said I'd be amazing and get could grades. Would have been better if they told me it would be hell and a waste of money.
Also, was at a foster home as a kid where foster parents lost their only son getting hit by a bike, and I was the God send replacement. I still cringe to think how that turned out. I don't think it lasted four months and lots of arguing, yelling, blasphemy, and then incarceration.
It isn't just a matter of choice either. I think people like me should be quickly executed , and one of the reasons is there is no choice to be all fucked up in the head, confused, have fits of rage, enjoy nothing but sin and evil, be morbid as hell, and make people miserable.
Telling mentally ill people it's all a choice and to change is like telling someone to get sexually aroused by the gender they are not attracted to or something. Not the best example to compare it to, but I think it's still a valid point is that if all someone is attracted to ( some of the time or all of the time) is morbid stuff or has reoccurring fits of rage and criminal history , it's very dangerous for them to start thinking things will get better.
Sure, I'm more compassionate than I used to be, things like that can change, through exercises of the mind and training oneself to have new habits, and faith in another entity greater than myself.
But people keep telling me to get a job and go back to school , and it's an act of charity more importantly to society if I don't do that. When I do things like that it causes people to suffer, the people I work with, and I tend to traumatize and disturb people when I'm fully resolved to not do so.
Not just that, I'm not predictable to myself. Tell the cops, they know me and I'm so honest they probably tap my phone and have cameras at my place or something. Guarenteed I'm under tight surveillance, but I'm just not the same person one day as the next.
I'll be compassionate and affectionate and quick to forgive people one day, then the next day be cold and wanna blow somebodies brains out for just being mildly annoying, and it isn't a choice or I'd know how to make sure I don't get like that. Or wake up in the morning and do the ritual that makes the change
The same Carmelite Mother Superior that was telling me what a bright future I had was shortly after slapping me in the face for shouting blasphemies in her convent. She's lucky she wasn't a priest her size or I would have snapped his neck.
Let's remember , it was positive thinking that got a lot of people hurt in my experience, so better for some people to actually be negative. Had I not been positive or had hope, lots of misery would not have been there and bad memories for a lot of people.
Ambition is a good thing for most people with keeping a positive attitude, but most people aren't in their first mental institution at age 10 either.
Also, in relationships, most people are crushed and heartbroken because they got their hopes up and expected positive outcome. It's a sick world and every day someone is tortured to death by the hands of another. What makes you or I immune to the same destiny? Best to not get hopes up.
Still, Monty Python had a point
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