Issues with the Bestie

[Pete's Draggun]

I like this newer brunette woman's qualities.
25 out of 30 listed items.

Brunette's bestie of 10 years, is 6 times out of 10 interactions that I've had with the bestie, are annoying at best.

Her bestie told her last night "I don't think Pete likes me very much"

Brunette told me last night that she doesn't want to have to take sides between me and her bestie if drama starts with the bestie.

I have a feeling this could very well become a NEXT! Exit for me.

[Amerijuanican]

Agreed Pete... besties can be an indicator of things to come.

In my experience, if besties like you, you're already half way there.

If they don't, they will mess you two up, somehow, someday. And that... sucks.

[Amerijuanican]

This also applies to her family too.

Watch and see who the "leader" is. A parent or uncle/aunt, or siblings

If you can get on well with the one who has all the say in the family, or her main "influence", you're good to go.

If not. eh good luck.

[Pete's Draggun]

The bestie likes me because I make the brunette happy. So I'm in on that account you mentioned.

[neonspectraltoast]

No, Pete. A complex woman...has strange bedfellows. Don't throw baby out with the bathwater, perhaps.

[Pete's Draggun]

Dang.

My brunette said those same exact words last night, "Don't throw baby out with the bathwater"

[neonspectraltoast]

I know this because I read books about dog and cat loving cosmopolitan women who had conflicted feelings towards police detectives.

[neonspectraltoast]

She is, perhaps, a cosmopolitan.

[Pete's Draggun]

Never heard of that description of a woman before.

I've only heard of it in the movie Tombstone.
DOC Holiday says it to the county sheriff when some gunslingers get shot in public during daylight hours in the center of town "Very Cosmopolitan "

[neonspectraltoast]

All I can add is trust the seduction. Besties are supposed to be annoying. According to the cat and dog detective mystery novels I've read.

[GLEN......]

I like this newer brunette woman's qualities.
25 out of 30 listed items.

Brunette's bestie of 10 years, is 6 times out of 10 interactions that I've had with the bestie, are annoying at best.

Her bestie told her last night "I don't think Pete likes me very much"

Brunette told me last night that she doesn't want to have to take sides between me and her bestie if drama starts with the bestie.

I have a feeling this could very well become a NEXT! Exit for me.

Take Care As Not To Trip Over Your "Ego" Mate......

Your Inevitable "Fall From Grace" Is Looming Closer With Every Passing Day......



Cheers Glen.

[Pete's Draggun]

Thanks matey

Classic movie quote..

"Your ego is writing checks your body can't cash". Those were the immortal words of Captain Tom “Stinger” Jordan in Top Gun.

[Jessica]

Since she is such a high score, otherwise.. I'd give it a little longer.

But if annoying is at best, what are the interactions that are worst?

[Pete's Draggun]

Jessica
Meliai
Interactions with the bestie that are the worst is when it's a group function and there's alcohol and a bad mixture of her anti depressants. Or no alcohol and the bestie hasn't taken her anti depressants in days.

Hence the annoying drama starts with the bestie.

[Meliai]

In what way is she annoying? If she's the type to start drama and your lady friend can't stand up to her or doesn't do anything to mitigate the drama, I could see that being an issue

If the bestie just has a bad personality but otherwise doesn't really do anything wrong, I wouldn't hold that against the lady friend

Especially if we're talking EEE here haha. EEE for life

[Pete's Draggun]

Meliai
Jessica

The bestie cries, shouts, starts verbal altercations, gets rude (all with people in public in our group gatherings)

Then the ladies round up and do damage control on the bestie.

The bestie has got a welcoming personality in sober and medicated gatherings.

This isn't EEE at all. ?

[mallyboppa]

I would fuck em both off

[Jessica]

Yeah that sounds like a headache, but I sympathize with the Brunette. I'd give her a chance. If/when drama comes up, how she deals with it demonstrates a lot.

Because she doesn't HAVE to get caught in the middle, that's her choice.

She can simply say to friend: I am not getting involved with this drama. Grow up :-)

[SpaceMan]

having a checklist is fucking crazy

im with the bestie on this one

[Meliai]

Pete's Draggun oh yikes, alcohol and anti depressants

It sounds like your lady needs to have a heart to heart with her bestie about her behavior when she's drinking

I wouldn't wanna be around that either. If it were me I would probably just tell the romantic interest I didn't want to hang out with the bestie anymore when alcohol is involved

[Din Djarin]

If the bestie is so mentally unstable and everybody in that friend group seems to acknowledge that, why would Brunette value Bestie's advice or judgements on you so highly?

[Pete's Draggun]

Din Djarin
The Brunette doesn't solely value the Bestie's advice and/or judgements on me, but also additionally from all her other friends in that circle.

So collectively, positive input on me from all the ladies in the Brunette's circle, the Brunette puts value on me.

[Din Djarin]

Also wondering if EEE is in the know and ok with you dating (AND sleeping if I understand correctly) with multiple women?