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**Jessica** · 07-30-2021, 01:42 PM

I'm also interested in how other women perceive men who post pictures with other women. Because yeah, might be a sister, cousin, friend.. but I just find it instantly off-putting. It feels like they're trying too hard to demonstrate that women aren't repelled lol

**Meliai** · 07-30-2021, 01:47 PM

I recently spent all of about 15 minutes on a dating app before pausing my profile because I found it really overwhelming ? This particular app allows you to "like" pictures or to communicate in text before you actually match with someone, then if the other person likes you back or communicates back it becomes a match.

I ended up getting a ridiculous amount of likes and messages within a few minutes of my profile being active, and it made me realize what it's like for women on dating apps versus what it's like for men. And none of those likes and messages were from anyone i would be interested in.

My only other experience with dating apps is a profile I made on Tinder using my cat as my profile picture, just so I could browse and see what's out there.
What's out there is nothing good, I found ? I went through so many Tinder profiles and only saw one guy I thought I could potentially be interested in, but he also seemed maybe a little too basic for my taste. Where the weirdos at who are ALSO hot hahaha

conclusion: dating apps are not for me and i'm just going to wait until that magic moment when my hand accidentally brushes some cute guy's hand in the grocery store as we both reach for the same apple. Or i become friends with someone and something blossoms, which I think is by far the most superior way of romancing.

There should be an app that is somewhat between Bumble and Bumble BFF, for people who are interested in romance but want a friendship to develop first. But probably not many guys would sign up for that lol

**Jessica** · 07-30-2021, 02:04 PM

Originally posted by Meliai

Or i become friends with someone and something blossoms, which I think is by far the most superior way of romancing.

Absolutely same.

All the talk of dating in the den reminded me to go and check my neglected OKC and it didn't take long to remind me why it is neglected, haha.

To be fair to it though, I'm still "friends" with that guy I told you about from Oklahoma. The fact that when we talk it's most often about asking my advice regarding the girl he's in love with who treats him badly is just hilarious to me.

**Tropical Breeze** · 07-30-2021, 08:14 PM

I was on a dating site about 12 years ago. I think i'm still traumatized. lol

Id rather have that magical moment like Mel said where our hands accidently brush against each other while reaching for the same dumbbell at the gym. Or a hot woman catches up to me while running and we're both trying to out run the other. ???

**Undies** · 07-30-2021, 09:18 PM

Originally posted by Jessica

Things I have learned about dating profiles (may apply to women too but I don't see those):

If a man has a heavily edited main picture, or obscured by hair/mask/similar, he's not hot.

If a man has a group photo as a main photo, he's the least attractive one.

Majority of men don't seem to read profiles, instead sending messages to people with whom they have glaringly irreconcilable incompatibilities.

A good number of men will respond to messages with "closed" answers, and no return questions, making it hard to continue conversation. Maybe they're just not interested, but then why would they respond at all.

i'd say they are generally true of women too, although a little different.

pretty much all women have heavily edited pictures. as in, they all have filters on. i rarely actually meet these women so i can't say if they're hot or not, but a vast majority of women's main pictures are their face with an animated flower crown and weird little animated hearts across the cheeks. it seems like a bad idea, because while i haven't met these particular women, i've seen women i actually know take similar pics and they almost always look better without the filters.

group photo is definitely the same issue.

i think a lot of men just send messages to everybody. primarily because 99.999999999% of messages get ignored by women, so you have to send a couple million messages to get a response. also, most profiles just say "ya'll won red this neway, so wy bother" and then go on to rant about how awful men are. it gets kind of boring reading them all after a while.

a lot of women do the closed answers thing too, if they actually bother to respond in the first place. it's very confusing.

**Undies** · 07-30-2021, 09:21 PM

Originally posted by Meliai

There should be an app that is somewhat between Bumble and Bumble BFF, for people who are interested in romance but want a friendship to develop first. But probably not many guys would sign up for that lol

i would think guys would be more likely to sign up. we don't have that same separation between friends and potential romantic partners that women tend to have; if i have a friend who's attractive then she probably would have a chance with me, whereas women keep saying they can't date someone they already know.

Where the weirdos at who are ALSO hot hahaha

ohio.

**Undies** · 07-30-2021, 09:24 PM

oh, and one of the pics i sometimes use is with a woman. i actually would prefer not to use it because i was always a little concerned about what women would think, but there's just not a lot of pics of me in existence, and i also happen to look pretty good in this one.

**Jessica** · 07-30-2021, 10:01 PM

Last time I actually met up with a guy he did mention my lack of filters. That was when everyone used the dog nose and ears one. I had seen it on tumblr but it surprised me the thought people would use it on a dating site. It's a bit weird?

That guy was the one who almost immediately told me he was older than he'd said he was though. That whole meeting maybe made me realise what bullshit people are happy to project.

**Undies** · 07-30-2021, 11:28 PM

Originally posted by Jessica

That guy was the one who almost immediately told me he was older than he'd said he was though.

a lot older?

i've noticed a lot of women say their age in their written profile, then when their age is automatically displayed they're often a year or two older than they said. i don't think they're lying, i just think they've had their profile for a long time and didn't bother to update it. it is a good reason not to state your age though; two years later people might start to wonder why you're still there after this long.

**Pete's Draggun** · 07-30-2021, 11:28 PM

Kinda off topic.......

My best friend Scott has had an insane amount of high quality women dates through his Facebook account.

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It almost made me consider setting up a Facebook account, but my dating streak without it keeps me from setting one up just for dating. Ntm, I don't think it would work as good for me, because I'm sure it would show on Facebook when I joined and it would look obvious that I created the account just for dating purposes. Which could then also lose street credibility on being honest in other's eyes.

His Facebook dating account literally has thousands of pics of him with his smiles, selfies, motorcycles, moped racing, ice racing, tattoos, body style, favorite books, favorite quotes, music venues, military service, camping, traveling, quirkies, his aging through the years, his teenage daughters, his work, gardening, other women enjoying his company, food, his home, social functions Yada Yada yada........ throughout his 10+ years of posting pics on his Facebook account.

Interested Women looking through probably hours of pictures of Scott's life, get a pretty complete feel for who he is as a person.

This drops the guard down on women to reach out to him because it's a little safer environment to know so much about the person's lifestyle throughout many years of his photographic life portrayed on Facebook.

Then all it is a meet up for a date and talk about everything seen on his Facebook pictures to see if there's a good connection.

The complete drawback to ANY online dating app is anyone can make a 10 min, limited picture and limited descripted text profile.
Hence, no real street credibility on being a honest profile.

I know dating apps can link Facebook accounts but I'm sure alot don't want to link because there is credibility issues with making the profile to begin with.

Stay safe on dating apps peeps!

**Undies** · 07-30-2021, 11:31 PM

Originally posted by Pete's Draggun

Kinda off topic.......

My best friend Scott has had an insane amount of high quality women dates through his Facebook account.

so how does that work? does it just suggest matches and show you their profiles?

**Jessica** · 07-30-2021, 11:51 PM

Originally posted by Undies

ohio.

are you just calling yourself a hot weirdo or do you mean there are lots
?

**neonspectraltoast** · 07-31-2021, 12:01 AM

I used Tinder today. Girls generally aren't interested, though. Starving artist is no match for snowboarder, or country music sensation, or guy who rides four wheelers.

Oh well, you know, been alone so long, it really doesn't matter anymore. Plus I'm cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.

**Undies** · 07-31-2021, 12:08 AM

Originally posted by Jessica

are you just calling yourself a hot weirdo or do you mean there are lots
?

just myself. i actually don't think i know any other hot weirdos around here.

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