Sex: Confidence when to make your move

[Pete's Draggun]

Sex should 9.9 out of 10 times be the man's idea.

Women that are physically and emotionally enthralled in their man, want that man's love both physically and emotionally as well.

But

It's up to the man to initiate the situation, warm and wet'in her up for sex.

This is where sex confidence comes into play.

A confident male has to make a confident decision if NOW or later is the right time to have sex with his woman.


Scenario 1

Man wakes up
Walks into kitchen
Finds his woman standing in kitchen
She's drinking coffee
She smiles....... says "good morning"
Man walks towards her says the same
Man pats her on the butt walking past her
Woman says "is that all?"

(Choose your own a̶d̶v̶e̶n̶t̶u̶r̶e̶ situation)

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Man walks by to the frig
Man says "yeah..... that's all....why? What?
Woman says "oh.....oh nothing "
Man says "oh.....ok"
Man puts breakfast in microwave
Leaves kitchen with her alone in kitchen

Or

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Man walks back to woman
Man says "no..... that's not all"
Man makes out with woman
Man warms up woman
Man has quickie with woman on the counter
Man finishes himself and her
Man says......."see.... that wasn't all"
Man says ....... "same time tomorrow..."
Man says..."different place, different position"

Woman smiles with affection
Woman can't wait till tomorrow morning
Woman thinks about it at work


Conclusion

Man with no sex confidence will not engage the woman in sex. Even with the most subtle hint that she wants it.

Off topic
* Beta's choice
# Alpha's choice

[Pete's Draggun]

Scenario 2

Man picks up his woman to attend funeral
Woman sees man well dressed in a suit
Woman smells her man's cologne
Woman says "you look and smell amazing tonight"
Man says "You look so good I could eat you"
Woman sultry smiles #5

[After funeral 1 hour later]

Man leaves with woman in car

(Choose your own a̶d̶v̶e̶n̶t̶u̶r̶e̶ situation)

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Man drives woman home
Man puts car in park
Man says "well I'll talk to you tomorrow "
Woman says "oh...oh ...okay"
Man reaches over kisses woman on cheek
Woman gets out of car

Or

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Man drives towards Woman's home
Man makes detour
Woman says "aren't you taking me home?
Man says "no, we're going to my house"
Woman says "oh..... how come?"
Man says "can't wait to bed you down babe"
Woman says "I am down with that babe"
Woman is the first one in the man's house.
Bliss......


Conclusion (again)

Man with no sex confidence will not engage the woman in sex. Even with the most subtle hint that she wants it.



Off topic
* Beta's choice
# Alpha's choice

[Meliai]

I dunno I dated a guy once who had the sex confidence to initiate it after a funeral and I was just like...dude I'm actually really sad right now, leave me alone

I didnt like him very much though, pretty sure we stopped seeing each other shortly after. So that may be why lol

[Meliai]

There just might be better ways to initiate after a funeral than to point the car in the specific direction of sex is all I'm saying. That way if you get rejected you don't have to do a 3 point turn to turn around AGAIN

[Youfreeme]

I've never been in this situation specifically but I had the same thought, lol. I guess maybe if it were a casual funeral and not someone really close to you?

[Undies]

in scenario 1, is that really a lack of sex confidence, or does the guy just have no sex drive? she basically said "hey come fuck me" and he said "nah, can't be bothered". i don't think that's lack of confidence as much as he just really wasn't interested.

[Undies]

Man wakes up
Walks into kitchen
Finds his woman standing in kitchen
She's drinking coffee
She smiles....... says "good morning"
Man walks towards her says the same
Man pats her on the butt walking past her
Woman says "is that all?"

the true alpha response:

[neonspectraltoast]

What undies said. All that my lack of sexual desire means in the end is one less implement of control.

Love is control to a woman if need be. Mutual control is modern love. Being out of control, even emotionally, is true autonomy.

[mallyboppa]

You get more confidence When the Roofies start kicking in

[Quark]

Sex should 9.9 out of 10 times be the man's idea.

Imagine how much this would confuse a gay couple.

*rolls dice*

? = 0.1

”Well, I guess not tonight…”

[Youfreeme]

Is it bad if a woman initiates sex, Pete? Like would it bother you?

[Jessica]

Also wondering this.

[Din Djarin]

He simply would turn it down and then initiate it himself all in order to remain alpha

[Undies]

I dunno I dated a guy once who had the sex confidence to initiate it after a funeral and I was just like...dude I'm actually really sad right now, leave me alone

I didnt like him very much though, pretty sure we stopped seeing each other shortly after. So that may be why lol

i think this one comes down to being able to read the room. if the woman is crying her eyes out on the ride home, the guy probably shouldn't try to cop a feel, but if she was actually sniffing him and giving sultry smiles before the funeral, she's likely not that concerned about the dead guy anyway.

on the other hand, even a casual acquaintance funeral seems like it would be a bit of a mood killer for most people. just kind of an odd example in general.

[Tropical Breeze]

A true Alpha would've made a move for sex during the funeral service. If the woman declined then she is obviously a Beta woman and should automatically be "nexted" for not having any sense of adventure.

[Jessica]

on the other hand, even a casual acquaintance funeral seems like it would be a bit of a mood killer for most people. just kind of an odd example in general.

I thought the opposite. I'm sure I once read/heard the idea that people like to have sex after funerals as an antidote to being reminded of their own mortality.

[Jessica]

I'm trying to imagine the worst death I can think of happening, happening. I feel like if the person I was having sex with loved that person too, it would be comforting. If they didn't, it wouldn't.

[Din Djarin]

If you had no group sex during a funeral you have not lived yet.

[Din Djarin]

Not necessarily what I ment. But perhaps you could try it and share your experiences

Key part is that its ritualistic group sex

[mallyboppa]

Nah trying to give it up mate !

[Babs]

Mally your a nut?

[Undies]

I thought the opposite. I'm sure I once read/heard the idea that people like to have sex after funerals as an antidote to being reminded of their own mortality.

i guess i could see that. i don't think i really consider my own mortality at funerals any more than i would otherwise, but i imagine a lot of people probably do.

i've also never attended a funeral with someone i had any real likelihood of having sex with, so maybe if that option was there it would be different.

[Jessica]

Yeah I don't have much experience either. I've been to one funeral. And all I could think about was how stupid and fake funerals are.

[Jessica]

Before anyone comes and criticises my absolutism, "not all funerals".

[Undies]

Jessica i've been to several, and they all felt pretty stupid and fake to me. mostly just a priest that didn't know the person talking for a little while about what a good christian the person was. and since most of my funerals have been catholic, it then goes into a full catholic mass that has nothing to do with the dead person.

sometimes they let an actual loved one talk, and i do see some value in that. it's not a given that that will even happen though.