Dating do's n don'ts.

[Pete's Draggun]

Don't text a woman while she's at work out of the blue. Nothing is that important; it can wait til she's home or on leisure time.


Find the quickest and shortest way to text a response back to the woman. Taylor yer texting to end the discussion as soon as possible.

Texting is like badminton 🏸
Hit the bird to the woman, allow her to hit it back. Don't hit the bird ......then run around the net and hit it back to your side of the net, just so you hit it back again.

[Beach Ball Bitch]

I agree. This goes for men too. Don’t text unless it is important, phone calls are better, but men, don’t do that either as work places don’t like it. But she will appreciate some sweet I love you thing or something, but not excessively... not once a day. Do it approx every three - 4 weeks. A nice message saying you wish her a great and good day and look forward to seeing her at the end of the day.

[Din Djarin]

To each their own, Pete. Can't narrow it down for everyone (or for yourself, by telling everyone how you feel it is )

[Meliai]

I like getting random workday texts. From anyone lol. Working in solitude can be soul sucking sometime. I welcome interruptions from anyone who wishes to interrupt me, just to remind me of the outside world : p
and is nice to take a break from work and check your phone and see someone was thinking about you

[Meliai]

Don't: use manipulation tactics you learned from some ugly guy's YouTube channel

Do: be genuine and sincere

[Undies]

Hot guy manipulation tactics, on the other hand...

[Jessica]

lol yes

[Undies]

What if you don't know when she's at work? People have all kinds of crazy schedules these days.

From working with women, my observation is that they all love getting bombarded with pointless texts at work.

[WritersPanic]

I know I do. Sometimes the timing is perfect for ditching a meeting.

[Pete's Draggun]

What if you don't know when she's at work?

To set the first date should be by phone call not text anyways. If no answer, leave a voicemail.

During the intial first date, the man should ask and find out what she does for a living and her hours of employment.

From working with women, my observation is that they all love getting bombarded with pointless texts at work.

This observation can draw many conculsions.

These women are getting bombarded by multiple beta males begging for her attention, and she's loving it to pick n choose from.

Friends texting
Family texting
Co-workers texting

Reducing your (dating) texts to a crawl with a woman when yer in the early stages of dating, will drastically increase your value as a male.

Getting her to think about you and the next possible date means to not be so available through texts and calls. Allow her to think about you in her lesiure time, at work, at home, at the grocery....ect. When your texting her multiple times daily or even once, lets her know your status with her.
👇
YOUR THINKING ABOUT HER MORE THAN HER THINKING ABOUT YOU.

The womans emotional drive with dating, love and effection, wants a relationship to slowly unravel into a love story of passion and romance.

In romance novels, the man is not blowing up the womans phone with texts and calls, unless of course there's a beta male being described and needing to be NEXT'ed in that chapter.



The first 90 days of dating 6 times or more should be fun , playful, pondering, guessing, each other's value, as well as buliding a higher level of attraction for both.

If the man over calls and texts..... you might as well just NEXT yerself, because she will NEXT you eventually.

[Meliai]

This thread has prompted me to reminisce about what dating was like before texting. But it's been a long time. I remember when I first started seeing the guy who became my first adult relationship, I had a cell phone but I was still calling him on a landline lol. Then one day he got a cell phone and texted me to let me know he missed me already right after i left his house and man that *thrilled* me haha. That may have been the first text I ever received.

i dont remember texting the guy i dated after him very much, we would just call each other every few days to make plans

Then by the time we broke up cell phones and texting were ubiquitous which I personally found very relieving because I always thought phone calls were a very nerve wracking part of dating lol.
although I can see the wisdom in going back to relying on phone calls to set dates. Much more personal.

[Pete's Draggun]

he got a cell phone and texted me to let me know he missed me already right after i left his house

👆 disgusting beta-male-ism

we would just call each other every few days to make plans

👆 confident alpha-male-ism

[Meliai]

👆 disgusting beta-male-ism



👆 confident alpha-male-ism

Oh man if you only knew these guys 😂 this assessment is not accurate.

i dont think a sweet "I miss you" text is beta/clingy/needy. Too early on before feelings have had a chance to grow, sure, that's weird. We were together then though.
And there's nothing beta about a sweet lil check in to let your girlfriend know you care about her

I'm honestly not a fan of the whole playing it cool thing.
There's a difference between being open and attentive and being needy and clingy. And being open and attentive is preferable to this whole game people play where they pretend they don't even like the other person for a while.

[Youfreeme]

I love work day texts. It shows that you’re thinking about me and gives me something to do during down times. I’d be sad if I didn’t receive any.

[niftypebble21]

^yup likewise

[Undies]

During the intial first date, the man should ask and find out what she does for a living and her hours of employment.

My point there is that hours of employment are mostly a thing of the past. Very few people seem to have jobs where they can just say "I work 9-5 Monday to Friday" or whatever. Most people get a schedule the week before, and they could be scheduled any random set of shifts, maybe the same as the week before, maybe completely different. And then someone will call off and they end up picking up other shifts, or trading shifts with someone.

Or if they don't have that kind of schedule, another common thing is the option to set their own hours. Which usually ends up being a little more consistent, but still not really. That's my situation, and if someone asks me when I work I usually answer "about 10-6 during the week". But I only say that because it's confusing to say "I aim for about 10-6, but sometimes I have to come in at 8 or 9 for a meeting, and sometimes I end up staying until 7 or 8 or 9 or 10 and sometimes I have to work Saturdays, starting anywhere between 7 and 10 and staying until somewhere between noon and 6 and sometimes I have to come in at a random times on Sundays and sometimes I manage to sneak out at 2 or 3 or 4 on weekdays if I've worked too many hours otherwise".

[Undies]

This observation can draw many conculsions.

These women are getting bombarded by multiple beta males begging for her attention, and she's loving it to pick n choose from.

Friends texting
Family texting
Co-workers texting

Eh, the ones I'm thinking of, it's always from the current monogamous boyfriend, and the female coworkers usually react to it with comments like "oh you finally found a good one!"

Not that I'm disagreeing in general, I've mentioned before that I've also observed women tending to shy away from attention. Which makes me wonder if the women at work are mostly just happy to have something to distract them from having to do their jobs.

[Jessica]

Yeah I agree with the other ladies, nothing wrong with a work day text.

I do agree with Pete that over-texting isn't attractive. But I think the thing is, if someone is having to put effort into not over-texting, it doesn't help.

The reason people who don't do it are attractive is that they have so much else that they spend their time on, even just enjoying alone time, that they don't have time for it. People with lives are attractive.

Over-texting generally signals the need to make a relationship the thing their life revolves around. And if the not texting is just a contrived game, it's still that the person is putting too much time and effort into it.

[niftypebble21]

yup agree and on over-texting I feel people need to be more mindfull of others lives and by constantly texting a person obsessively is too much intruding on personal space.

[Youfreeme]

I don't even mind over-texting, but I mind when people over-text and then expect constant responding.

I was chatting with this Tinder guy once, and he was a very prolific texter, constantly sending me long walls of messages with multiple questions--which I actually didn't mind because I enjoyed reading them and we had a lot to talk about.

But, one day, I got super busy--worked an 18 hour shift and just didn't have time to respond (very limited phone access at that job). I woke up the next morning to like 695459485 messages of slowly escalating anger. Kinda like

"Hope you're ok."
"Hey, I haven't heard from you in like 10 hours."
"What's the deal, did I say something wrong?"
"No need to be a snob, if you don't like me, just say something."
"Come on, don't be a bitch and ignore me."
"Women like you think you're better than people like me."

Etc, etc, until he was texting in all caps.

Then, on facebook, I saw he posted a meme that said

"There are plenty of fish in the sea, but I am only attracted to one emotionally unavailable salmon."

Which I thought was low-key hilarious, but hey, at least the red flags waved themselves before I got any more invested!!!!

[Amerijuanican]

Hilarious! haha

[Youfreeme]

lol this was my first real dating interaction after ending a really long term relationship, so I was like 0.o "is this how it is?"

[Youfreeme]

Jessica yeah I did explain that I was busy, and he calmed down, but that was kind of it for me. I don't date people who call me names, it's a hard no.