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    How many friends do you have?

    This is in the Sex, Romance, and love section, because I believe the word "love" has to apply, if you have a true friend!

    I have a lot of people I am aquatinted with and talk to. They are not friends!


    I have very little interest in many friends, when I discover what most people talk about, and how highly irritating it is to be around such chatter.

    I'm not saying I am a better person than they, but my interest is in connecting with Spiritual entities that are greater than myself, and doing their will.

    I find that is not the interest of the average person, so feel like being friends with the average person, and being around such chatter, it alienates me from God, the Virgin Mary, and the Spiritual Empire and brotherhood I long to be connected to (and do their bidding).


    I would say I have a true friend in Minneapolis who called me two days ago. He loves to hear about all the bizarre signs and coincidences I come across, and some of the meaning I attach to them. He is not a religious person, but he says that if I'm not bullshitting him, and those things happen like they do, and all the dots connect, he said is irrefutable that the universe is involved with some independent force or sentient being, other than mere chance or coincidence.

    But I don't think he believes in God either.

    It was weird. I saw him wearing a "dead Kennedys" logo, and he played dead kennedys music for me. I went up to my room and checked another forum's notifications immediately after he played the dead Kennedys, and someone resurrected an old thread of mine that hadn't been posted at in months, and the post resurrecting the dead thread, was about the "dead Kennedys" group.
    That recovery center was next to Saint Olaf's Church , which had a plaque to John F Kennedy
    , at the Pew he attended Mass there. It caused me to study JFK , because he has my favorite person I ever met's birthday, the day he died (He was assasinated 11/22, she was born 11/22.) This lead me to love Jackie Kennedy (Jackie is an alternative for my surname). I taped a picture of Jackie Kennedy on my wall on Christmas, as I said, and a brand new cell phone showed up in my locked security Hallway with the name Jaquelin (Jackie's name on her birth certificate), last name beginning in "K", on New Years day. The phone was brand new and is a "Schok" phone, and I was shocked.

    It works, I just had to register as "Jackie". I only share the story again because it is "President's day" , and JFK was my favorite President. Because of that sign and wonder, I feel like JFK and Jackie are my friends. I feel like I bless them and they bless me.
    But I don't think a lot of people would call that a legitimate friendship. Thing is, I find people just don't talk about things that interest me, and if people are not helping me grow more wise, have more understanding, increasing virtue, raising my moral standards, advancing my knowledge about things it is good to be knowledgeable about, I just don't have interest in having them as friends.
    I am most happy when I am chanting to, invoking, blessing, and petitioning my friends in Heaven, or receiving what I interpret as signs from above.
    But having lots of true friends would be wonderful, and I feel I have them, they are just Heavenly beings. I think a lot of people who think they have a lot of friends, would be surprised that they don't have as many friends as they think.

    There are many celebrities who probably don't have a friend in the world. They might have people who are drawn to their money, fortune, fame, talent, good looks etc, but do they really have people who love them for who they are, if they had none of those qualities?

    Thoughts? How many friends do you think you have? I think currently , other than immediate family, and other than people on the Internet, in real life, out of people I met, I have three male friends, and two female friends.
    The two female friends I used to spend lots of time with in real life, but I also don't live in the same state they do anymore. One of them is sending me a pair of Saint Dymphna (Patron Saint of the mentally ill) socks in the mail I should get soon
  • Answer selected by Matthew Mussolini at 02-21-2022, 10:11 PM.

    I don't have any friends.

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      #2
      I don't have any friends.

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        #3
        Originally posted by neonspectraltoast View Post
        I don't have any friends.
        Well,
        I certainly care about you and would be willing to make great sacrifices to see you happy , enlightened, powerful, blissful, and without want or suffering, for all eternity!

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          #4
          Well,
          Maybe I should quit complaining. Maybe i am very fortunate.

          In Montana, a lady gave me a hug and said "a lot of people love you Matthew".

          A lot of people don't have that, so I should stop complaining , I guess....

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            #5
            Originally posted by neonspectraltoast View Post
            I don't have any friends.
            Mother Teresa said that is the greatest form of suffering and poverty there is on earth. In that sense, you are a martyr!

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              #6
              Sometimes I wonder if I ever had a real friend.

              I don't mind being alone, though.

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                #7
                Originally posted by neonspectraltoast View Post
                Sometimes I wonder if I ever had a real friend.

                I don't mind being alone, though.

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                  #8
                  Never saw the point in counting them.

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                    #9
                    I could just as easily say 20 or 0 lol. I have collected a lot of friends who I don't see very often either because of distance or because at some point life got busy and we got used to seeing each other twice a year and that's just how it is now.
                    am grateful for those friendships but also craving friends who are more involved in my daily life and vice versa.
                    I'm being more proactive with that lately and maybe have made a couple of new friends so that's neat-o. Friends make me happy

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                    • Youfreeme
                      Youfreeme commented
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                      what is your secret to making new friends?

                    • Meliai
                      Meliai commented
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                      Youfreeme Bumble BFF lol. I really have no clue how else to meet people or make friends in my 30s. I've only been on it like a week, took a walk with one person and have plans next week with someone else and i'll probably call it quits after that, two people are plenty to satisfy my social needs haha.I recommend! It felt a little weird at first but I found a lot of ladies in the area with similar interests as me so it beats just waiting around and hoping you'll bump into a kindred spirit one day

                    • Din Djarin
                      Din Djarin commented
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                      Ha, i thought about such an app

                      I have no trouble interacting with strangers at all, but really notice making new friends in my 30s is not easy at all. Not that i fanatically tried by joining something (best way imo, other than such an app). I don't wanna join anything. I just want more fun friends

                    #10
                    I have no Friends I have acquaintances and people I like to hang out with but nobody I would catch a flying bullet for I have actually had a couple of real friends in my life but you (and they ) change
                    Or life changes you

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by Meliai View Post
                      I could just as easily say 20 or 0 lol.
                      This. There's kind of a spectrum of closeness, and it depends on where the threshold is of what you call a friend.

                      And there's other factors too. Right now, there's two people in town here that I hang out with regularly. But I have a couple friends who I feel closer to, but they both live hours away so I only see them once every year or two. I don't really think about them when asked to count friends, even though I think I probably should.

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                          #13
                          Undies Meliai
                          zero seems excessive! I can say the same sentence as like.. as easily say ten as two. But not zero. I could not say I had zero friends, in any context.


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                            #14
                            Originally posted by Jessica View Post
                            Undies Meliai
                            zero seems excessive! I can say the same sentence as like.. as easily say ten as two. But not zero. I could not say I had zero friends, in any context.

                            It just felt especially pronounced for a while there that I don't have close friends in close proximity who are on my wavelength.

                            I want a friend who will come over a couple times a week and have deep discussions about the meaning of life and do witchy things with me and camp on mountains with me and maybe offer their shoulder every once in a while when I feel needy 😅
                            So that was my context for zero lol

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                            • Jessica
                              Jessica commented
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                              GodDAMN IT SHOULD BE ME! :-)

                            • Meliai
                              Meliai commented
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                              I KNOWWWWWW

                            • Din Djarin
                              Din Djarin commented
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                              I want (and lack) something very similar!

                            #15
                            You can make new friends at AA meetings. Only requirement for membership, is a desire to quit drinking.

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