How has beating yourself up benefited others?

[Matthew Mussolini]

I find maybe self-flagellation can be a good thing, like if you are a priest who molested somebodies kid, flagellation in the form of putting a 12 gage shotgun to your chin and pulling the trigger as penance , could benefit society, especially if you did so before before raping choir boys.

But as a general rule, I find beating myself up over the people I wrong just makes me more hateful , and more people get wronged by me as a result.

You can beat yourself up for eternity and it isn't helping the people you wronged.

Or is it?

[PacificDude]

Matthew Mussolini This is so weird. I think you just solved the enigma of that odd phrase from Love Story that was driving me insane:

[Sooz]

Don't beat yourself up Matt. It's not a good look.

[Matthew Mussolini]

Matthew Mussolini This is so weird. I think you just solved the enigma of that odd phrase from Love Story that was driving me insane:

Damn!

I did really need to see her face right about now too!

[PacificDude]

Damn!

I did really need to see her face right about now too!

You and me both :-)

[SusieDerkins]

It is not helping. If it was in the past, let it stay there and make a determination not to do it again. Throw your anxiety on God in prayer and do not take it back.