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    Would you ever tell someone they have a bright future?

    I mean, I would tell someone, "you have all the good qualities of someone I would expect to have a bright future", but no, I would never tell someone they have a bright future.

    People that always told me I had a bright future back in the day harmed me as much as people who told me I'd always be worthless.

    You simply don't know whether someone is going to be living till their 100 or dead the next day, so quit promising them shit! Someone can be a 19 year old marathon runner one day , with a genius IQ and the prettiest girlfriend, then hit by a drunk driver the following day and left paralyzed from the neck down in a wheelchair for life.

    Now, if you see that a person needs encouragement and reason to hope, be positive with them and give them compliments. Saying, "you're extremely good at this or that , handsome, and brilliant" is a good thing, provided that it doesn't stir up unhealthy forms of pride and vanity. But telling someone they have a bright future is a total shit crock!

    My mom got married to her second husband, had their first baby together, my little sister, and you could see my step Dad grinning ear to ear holding her like it was the happiest day of his life. I kid you friggin not, a truck hit him four days later and killed him.

    I never have seen or heard someone weeping so bitterly as my mother when she told us he was dead, and just days before there were all the signs that it was the best moment in Curtis and Ann's life, and all signs were that it would be a super happy marriage, for I never heard them argue once and don't even ever recall them disagreeing on anything.

    Don't get too comfortable on this earth. Tomorrow is never promised to anyone. I don't care what the Bible says. Shove it up your ass! The first Christians were fed to wild animals, used as torches at the Olympic games, crucified, beaten, taken to the gallows, boiled alive, all kinds of tortures like their teeth being all pulled out, drowned, and I even heard Pagan Romans would watch Christian girls get raped by donkeys for amusement.

    If you don't believe in God, well then you don't know someone has a bright future, because what force could possibly be preventing something terrible from happening at any give time? So fuck off!

    If you do believe in God, I can prove he's an ass hole that watches people who are devoted to him get tortured to death when they are young, intelligent, and talented. So fuck off!



    This is a positive healthy thread.

    #2
    Yeah, I've heard this idea before. Personally, I don't mind what people say like that to me.. but probably there is that part of my brain that rolls its eyes and thinks "how would you know?"

    It's the same when people tell a single person that they'll find love one day. Lots of people don't. That should be acknowledged.

    I actually know a man who says that having people tell him how good he was at things, and how he had so much potential just made him want to not bother. Which I would reframe as the pressure of other people seeing him that way making him too fearful to try, in case he failed and shattered that image they had of him.

    I think in certain situations we don't know what to say, and we just want to make the other person feel better, and yeah, it probably leads us to say some stupid bullshit. It is something I intend to watch out for in myself. Usually, comforting someone else just means acknowledging whatever is bad/wrong.. but even though I know that, it still feels somehow lacking, if that's all I do.

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      #3
      Originally posted by ill Duce View Post
      ...Don't get too comfortable on this earth. Tomorrow is never promised to anyone...
      ill Duce
      Mamma Mia!
      ill Duce One of the wisest things I've read on TF ... Matt speaks his truth. If only more of us would listen ;-)

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        #4
        I don't like compliments (or criticism ) I know exactly what I am and have done for a long time none of us are perfect or even perfectly fallible Frank Zappa said "you are what you is " I wonder if he thought the same way ?
        As far as the Future ? the next five minutes is your future

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          #5
          I don't know, depends on how drunk I am.

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          #6
          I'm a classic underachiever. Everything came easy to me in school and all the adults around me promised me all the world's riches when it came to my future, but then when I actually got to the future I didn't know how to put in the work to make stuff happen.
          Plus I felt the pressure of everyone's expectations which just made me completely freeze and shut down and I spent several years just bumbling about aimlessly with no real goal in life except to enjoy it

          So yes, I think promising someone an easy future and then just expecting it to happen is not healthy. Better to teach someone how to deal with failure and how to figure out what they want in life outside of anyone else's expectations

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            #7
            Originally posted by Meliai View Post
            I'm a classic underachiever. Everything came easy to me in school and all the adults around me promised me all the world's riches when it came to my future, but then when I actually got to the future I didn't know how to put in the work to make stuff happen.
            Same counts for me 100%

            I have been limiting my responsibilities so I can have a good life. I'm not into taking too much hay on my proverbial pitchfork. It may have to do with being a perfectionist as well, to certain extent (saw it touched upon in another thread just today as well!). I don't care at all about being called or seen as a perfectionist, I just notice that I have it in common with them when they freeze/stagnate in their highly expected goals/actions.
            I also feel that people have the right to be an underachiever. And it can be a serious flaw to pressure certain peeps in like having a career or other aspect in life that's just not for them.

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              #8
              Originally posted by PacificDude View Post

              ill Duce
              Mamma Mia!
              ill Duce One of the wisest things I've read on TF ... Matt speaks his truth. If only more of us would listen ;-)
              I Don't know what I'd do had we never met by chance, fate, destiny, or whatever. Life wouldn't be the same without your comments and help.

              .....but the thread kinda fell apart at the end when I was blaspheming and telling God and everyone to fuck off.... haha! ??

              I just find it fun talking like that from time to time. It's not part of my character usually though.

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                #9
                Originally posted by ill Duce View Post

                I Don't know what I'd do had we never met by chance, fate, destiny, or whatever. Life wouldn't be the same without your comments and help.

                .....but the thread kinda fell apart at the end when I was blaspheming and telling God and everyone to fuck off.... haha! ??

                I just find it fun talking like that from time to time. It's not part of my character usually though.
                It's a very Buddhist belief: Laugh/cry, comedy/tragedy, love/hate, live or die - we are all headed to the same place. Trust me, it's a good place for all. Nobody (sinners or saints) are excluded :-)

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                  #10
                  ill Duce
                  Mamma Mia!
                  ill Duce God laughs at blasphemy and welcomes any critical thought. Think about it

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                    #11
                    Originally posted by Din Djarin View Post
                    ill Duce
                    Mamma Mia!
                    ill Duce God laughs at blasphemy and welcomes any critical thought. Think about it
                    That's kinda my suspicion. I hope so! If he's so big an infinite, certainly he doesn't get his panties in a bundle over things like the Bible says he repeatedly does like kill somebody for touching the Ark of the Covenant unworthily or have someone stoned to death for working on the wrong day of the week.

                    The Bible makes God look like a PMSing girl having her first period.

                    God is so much bigger than that.

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                      #12
                      I'm a lot more likely to tell someone they have potential, because I think that's a much more honest statement and I do dislike bullshitting.

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                      #13
                      Originally posted by PacificDude View Post

                      It's a very Buddhist belief: Laugh/cry, comedy/tragedy, love/hate, live or die - we are all headed to the same place. Trust me, it's a good place for all. Nobody (sinners or saints) are excluded :-)
                      Oblivion (no
                      Undies
                      Very hot dog
                      Undies not the Elder scrolls one!)

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                        #14
                        If a person was obviously heading down the wrong path, no I would not tell him/her they have a bright future. That would be lying. Possibly encourage the bad behavior.

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                          #15
                          I would never tell someone they have a bright future based on Mel's exact-a-mundo last paragraph. I completely agree.

                          However....

                          I would tell someone they'll have a not so bright future with back/neck problems looking down at their phones all the time.


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