Secrets of human language

[Guest]

Whoever is asking the question is controlling the conversation

[GLEN......]

Not If I'm Busy "Interjecting" ......Not A Chance In A Million......



Cheers Glen.

[tumbling.dice]

What do you mean?

[Din Djarin]

Trying to control the convo huh

[Tropical Breeze]

^^ Is that what you think? :-p

[Din Djarin]

Tropical Breeze Yes, but only by going by the OP's logic

[Tropical Breeze]

Are you some type of control freak? And how did you come to this conclusion?

I usually am the one asking the questions. I don't do it with an attempt to control the convo. Maybe the one who can remain completely silent is the one in control.

[Undies]

I was taught the one with the gun controls the conversation.

[Guest]

I am no control freak at all. I am talking about secrets of human communication.
if a person asks a question, the hearer has to direct their mind to the question and the topic being questioned. So, in essence, the speaker of the question controls the direction of conversation.
that is just one, there are a ton of others, like learning body language, how to make people like you, how to tell if someone is lying by body language. Most of it is used by the police or sales people

[everything bagel]

the hearer has to direct their mind to the question

Has to or chooses to?

[Guest]

We all can choose to answer whatever we want in whatever way. There is always choice.

[Guest]

Has to or chooses to?

i meant to quote

[everything bagel]

i meant to quote

Saul good

[Jessica]

I usually forget these kind of tips about power of language use.. But one I read recently and have tried several times... If someone says something and you want to ask more detail without making them feel interrogated.. Just repeat what they said.

"I'm going to the shop"
Instead of asking why, or what they're going to buy, or how long will they be.. Just repeat "you're going to the shop" and they will often elaborate. It works.

[Din Djarin]

[Guest]

Another great one is this. While sitting at a table after a meal or discussion. Be the first one to stand up and everyone else will follow

[Guest]

I call all of this “word karate”

[Guest]

Like imitating someone’s movement or speech or finding common ground. Which is, finding out what you have in common with someone by asking directed questions