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    New Years Resolutions

    This might seem a bit early but I have had an idea on a different way to think about them, so I wanted to tell you all about it now so you could consider.

    They typically fail because we choose things that are usually changes we think we should make anyway, things we intend to stick to FOREVER. Like a better diet, more exercise, no/less drinking etc. They're impossible, and if we were going to do them, we'd do them any time of year. We'll always give up early when we know there's almost zero chance of sticking to it.

    I think a more fun way to look at it is to come up with things that are only for the year ahead. Right from the start you know it's only a year, there is an ending point; it becomes more of a challenge than an attempt to change yourself.

    And you can vary how easy/hard it is. So for example you could say that for the whole of 2021 you are going to go for a walk every day. Or you could say once a week. OR even once a month. So then all you have to do is go for twelve walks in the whole year.. Easy. An attainable challenge. Changing your diet might feel impossible but if you have to eat healthily, or not drink coffee, or not smoke for ONE day of the week, that's perfectly doable.

    Doing it this way, I'd bet you'll probably find by 2022 you have developed new habits. And yet if you haven't.. you can just abandon the whole thing and make new resolutions for the next year.

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    • Jessica
      Jessica commented
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      so you didn't read the post then? : )
      my point was making it about being a fun challenge than trying to change yourself.

    #3
    I've been writing every day for a few months. I havent been putting pressure on myself, just writing a sentence or paragraph or however much I feel like on any given day, and just whatever comes to mind at the time. I'm up to about 60 handwritten pages now

    I think in 2021 I will start organizing, editing, and fleshing out what I've written and try to get something cohesive out of it

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          #6
          Looking back at my 2020 resolutions,
          I succeeded in going out and exercising more - right after I got a dog at the end of 2019.
          I managed to make more friends and be more social despite a pandemic that shut down all social activity.

          I wanted to make 2020 the year I went to Burning Man, but that never happened because festivals are now a thing of the past.

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            #7
            lol... write a post about a different way of treating new years resolutions because the typical way is stupid...

            everyone talks about how the typical way is stupid.

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            • mallyboppa
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              TBH Jessica I was just having a Laugh !
              I don't believe in New years Resolutions , If your gonna do something (or try to ) just do it !

            • Jessica
              Jessica commented
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              lol I know mallyboppa . But I don't believe in them either.. did you even read my post? Cause it doesn't sound like it! but that's cool. I'm having a laugh back ; )

            #8
            I read the post, but I just don't really think it would work for me. For one thing, it doesn't sound like a fun challenge. A crossword is a fun challenge, this sounds like work. And a year isn't super long, but if it's a year of doing something I don't want to do, it suddenly sounds like an eternity.

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            • Jessica
              Jessica commented
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              fair enough! i was talking about things people wanted to do.

            #9
            2020 resolutions were 2 months before covid became a thing. Beleive one of my resolutions was to travel to a different country not in Sth East Asia

            so, that worked out well

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              #10
              I don't believe in resolutions of any kind.

              They don't work because you are either too busy to get it done
              Or simply cannot do it for your own reasons.

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                #11
                They don't work because we are WEAK !

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                  #12
                  You guys suck! : )
                  I regret this thead. I just want it to be January 1st so we abandon it.


                  My plan was to give up giving opinions for a new years resolution. For one year I won't offer my opinions on anything, unless specifically asked, and even then if there is another way to answer it, I will. I thought it might be relaxing.

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                  • The Batman
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                    I think it would be really frustrating to have a conversation with someone who actively avoided giving their opinions.

                    That's my opinion. Not even asked for, or desired!

                  • Jessica
                    Jessica commented
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                    The Batman fortunately, you and i rarely talk.

                    but actually most people don't even notice. i barely notice. i mean, i'm not being insane about it. if someone says.. "nice day isn't it?" i'll just say "yeah!" (or no) which is an opinion. but when everyone in a conversation has to give their varying opinion on what constitutes the best burger.. i often just think.. why.. why am I driven to add to this. who cares.

                    and then the rest of the time giving an opinion on a serious topic inevitably leads to a debate where no-one changes their mind.

                    it'll be interesting experiment anyway. you'll just have to spend more time here to see if the way i talk becomes frustrating in January.

                  #13
                  I finally have one: move the fuck out of my current place!

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                    #14
                    Originally posted by Jessica View Post
                    You guys suck! : )
                    I regret this thead. I just want it to be January 1st so we abandon it.


                    My plan was to give up giving opinions for a new years resolution. For one year I won't offer my opinions on anything, unless specifically asked, and even then if there is another way to answer it, I will. I thought it might be relaxing.
                    this is me specifically asking for your opinions on everything.

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                      #15
                      Originally posted by Undies View Post

                      this is me specifically asking for your opinions on everything.
                      i feel overwhelmed by that request.

                      see! i already thought about this. stating how i feel is not an opinion : )

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